In my first blog post, “I’m Fat”, I spoke about eliminating the self-damaging and discouraging ways of speaking from your mouth and mind. I think it’s a vital first step to change the way you think and the way you see yourself in order to improve your life.
So, now that you know to stop saying and thinking hurtful things about yourself, let’s talk about the next step: Love and what is love?
You may be thinking like the Tina Turner song says; What’s Love Got To Do With It? (Is that song stuck in your head now too? You’re welcome! LOL) Well, love has everything to do with nearly all aspects of your life. It all starts with love. So first, let’s figure out what exactly love is.
You say you love a lot of things pretty often.But you “loving” those new shoes or that pumpkin spice cappuccino don’t really involve love. That’s just what you enjoy; and maybe a little too often.
Let’s answer the question, What is love, as God, the author of love, describes it in 1 Cor 13.
Love is patient. When is the last time you were patient with yourself? Being patient involves suffering a long time with something while maintaining a positive attitude.
Do you get upset and think horrible things about yourself? Whether it’s when you step on the scale, the jeans are fitting too tight, or that run didn’t go as well as you’d hoped?
Stop beating yourself up and remember progress takes time – and time requires patience. Love yourself enough to be patient with all of your difficulties.
Love is kind and not rude. Read that again. Love is kind. Do you know what the opposite of kind is? It’s cruelty. Now evaluate your thought life and how you perceive your own self. What types of thoughts happen more often? Kind or cruel?
Love yourself more by thinking only kind thoughts toward yourself and others. Eliminate all negative self-talk.
Love does not envy. Oh, ouch! Yup, I’m guilty. This one stings. How often do you compare your body or life to that of another woman, and wish you were more like her.
Do you feel like you don’t measure up? Comparing always breeds bitterness!
2 Corinthians 10:12 We do not dare to classify or compare ourselves with some who commend themselves. When they measure themselves, by themselves, and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise.
Take the thoughts that compare you to others captive, and stop them where they start. Definitely don’t speak these, either. Speaking them gives them life and power.
Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres. Love never fails.
With this understanding of what God describes real love to be, can you see how vital it is to love God first, then yourself and others more? Also how important it is to eliminate all negative ways of thinking and speaking?
God says you are Beautiful (SOS 4:7), Precious (Isa 43:4), Blessed (Gen 1:28), Valuable (Luke 12:7), Strong and Courageous (Josh 1:9), Loved (John 3:16), Respected, (Ps 138:6) Awesome and Wonderful (Ps 139:14) and so much more!
Now try thinking only on the attributes God gave you. Knock out negative thoughts by continually reminding yourself of the qualities you already possess. Real love always requires sacrifice. Sacrifice the things you want to say or think about yourself and others, for the things you need to say and think.
It’s time you see yourself as God sees you – and refuse to think any other way. You have the power to control your mind and thoughts.
Living a better, healthier life starts in your mind and Spirit. Having a better sense of self worth will help you to make healthier and wiser decisions in your everyday life. If you call yourself fat, dumb, or ugly, you will continue to make choices that will support those negative feelings.
I’m not saying this will be easy. It is a constant challenge you have to battle every day. But one of the quotes I use quite often is “If it doesn’t challenge you, it doesn’t change you.” This applies to every aspect of your life. Love is what will keep you motivated and give you the strength to persevere.
Change your mind, and you will succeed in changing your life. Live life well!
1 SAM 16:7-FOR THE LORD SEES NOT AS MAN SEES, FOR MAN LOOKS ON THE OUTWARD APPEARANCE BUT THE LORD LOOKS ON THE HEART
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